Friday, July 31, 2009

Half Empty? Half Full?

Today is Positive Day in the Bloggosphere. Jen over at Dust Bunny Hostage and her Diva Daughter came up with this positively great idea. Can you ever have too much positiveness in your life?

It's not always easy to be positive. Sometimes I find it very, very hard. Being a positive-thinking person doesn't come naturally to me. But then again, thinking negatively doesn't either. I guess you could say I'm somewhere in the middle. Maybe right in the middle of the half full/half empty glass.

I'm always envious of the naturally positive thinkers, though. I know two that come immediately to mind. My Auntie Theresa and my Auntie Cindy a/k/a to me as Cynthia. I'm not quite sure how they do it, but you just about can't force them to be negative. Seriously. And that really and truly amazes me and makes me want to have what the positive spirit that they have.

And I know negative thinkers. Actually, quite a few. No matter what good thing life brings their way, they manage to find something negative in the good thing. I find that very discouraging.

Being a mom to my almost 21-year-old and my almost 17-year-old has without a doubt taught me the most about being a positive thinker. To me, being positive thinking person really means turning the other cheek. Or as I often say, making lemonade out of your lemons. No doubt, everyone gets lemons at some time or another.

Being negative is just no fun. It's just not. It robs you of the joy that God wants us to have every single day. Not that every single day is a big bowl of cherries or a perfectly rosy picture. But why not try to find the good in the negative things. Even if it's just ever so slight.

Thinking negatively also takes up a lot of energy. You can quickly try to think of some little something positive in a negative situation, but thinking negatively saps your energy the whole entire day. It's like a gigantic weight you carry on your shoulders.

So to celebrate Positive Day, here are some things that I'm feeling positive about.

1. It's raining in Georgia. My yard and my flowers and all the trees were very thirsty.
2. My migraine headache is subsiding. Now, I've had it most of the day, but it's getting better.
3. My house is clean.
4. My hair is growing out from the short cut I got last fall.
5. I cleaned out my purse, so now I can find everything. Except my cell phone.
6. My Southern Living magazines that I ordered and paid for in April have started arriving on time.
7. My family and their health and happiness. This is the one I struggle with a lot. I tend to worry about this one more than I should.

Now, if I made a list of the things I'm feeling negative about, it could be quite lengthy. Here's one for starters.

1. The proposed government healthcare.
2. Violence.
3. Traffic and rude drivers.
4. Car insurance.
5. The crumbs on the floor I stepped on to get to my computer.
6. Knowing my basement looks like a tornado blew through it. No, really.
7. That I'm not a better manager of my time.
(Y'all know that I put my lists in no particular order, nor do I set a limit on how many things I put on it. When it's time to stop, it's time to stop.)

Looking at my negative list, there are some things I can't do anything at all about. Some things I can change or fix or make better.
Don't you just love that Serenity Prayer? I think that sums it up for me. To me being positive is having the courage and smarts to change what you can, accept and pray about what you can't and the wisdom to know the difference.
Is your glass half empty or half full? What do you do to be a more positive thinker? How does it affect you when you're thinking negatively? Come on. Curious minds want to know.
Till tomorrow. Enjoy the rest of this Positive Day.


jennifer said...

Kelly, I agree... being positive is not always easy. Lucky for those around us that we are willing to try to be positive anyway.

I've enjoyed reading your post. Based on the things you listed you are very blessed!

Thank you so much for participating today. You blessed my heart. Have a great weekend!

Cindy Lou said...

I guess I learned alot of the positive stuff from Theresa!! She has helped me through alot of stuff and I admire her and if you are around positive then it helps you yourself to be positive!! Love you!!!

Travis said...

I'm here from Jen's linky.

I think it's important to recognize the negative thoughts in our minds, so we can understand where they are coming from and make choices about how we're going to deal with them.

Happy Positive Day!

Theresa said...

Hey Sweet Niece, I just refuse to be negative-it makes me sad! I like being happy, of course you already know that:) I think when the negative tries to creep in... I shove it to the side and tip toe past it. There is always a solution to a problem and just move on straight to the solution. Health concerns make me not so much negative but pray really hard! Love you and I am POSITIVE you will have a great day:)

Dianne said...

the Serenity Prayer is powerful

I love that you listed positives and negatives - balance is important

Joyce said...

anti-depressants. that is my final answer. ask my kids! lol! :D Love you and have an awesome weekend!

tracychele said...

I like to think I got my "half full" mentality from Mom, too. She raised me on the saying "It could always be worse!" It was something I had to tell myself when Alex was in the Emergency Room a few weeks back! There is someone with a child more sick than mine was, someone with more crumbs on their floor, someone who does not have a basement to store the "tornado debris" in, etc. You get the jist. Not that our negatives aren't important to us, just not enough to break our spirit or take away our hope that things will change (maybe after 8 years...or 4 would be better). Great blog and have a wonderful weekend!!

Anonymous said...

I think the part about understanding our negative thoughts is so important. Excellent my friend. Happy Positive Day, 2009. Aloha

REGINA said...

When I was reading your blog that serenity prayer came to me.I do think that it is very powerful prayer.Here lately I've said that prayer a good bit.I try to have a positive attitude most of the time.Hope you have a positive day.

Nan Kelly said...

I just caught up on your blogs. They are so special! I did not know that about your TV. Ronnie told me about the hot water heater. I kind of like all the rain too because all my flowers are looking beautiful. Please have a swim day for me and Ronnie. I want to get in a pool at least one time this year Kelly Kelly! Too many folks last night. Hope you and Jeff did not have to work late last night. Luv sista in law nan

Toddler Crafts Susan said...

my name is Kelley. I've met only one other person who spells it that way for their first name - and they were named their mother's maiden name.

Leigh of Bloggeritaville said...

LOVE the positives! Great to focus on those and God's plan!